With the death of Doris Day At 97 yesterday it got me thinking about the sentiment behind arguably her biggest hit. What ever will be, will be.
The dynamic within our family has always been that Bec tends to be more the worrier whilst I always appear to have more of a devil may care attitude when it comes to life events and decision making. From time to time this does cause some conflict with Bec agonising over some decision which will appear trivial to me. But general our two attitudes balance well with Bec’s attitude keeping us all alive and able to save money and travel and buy the things we want and need. We also over the time we have spent together have come closer together in our thinking whilst we still follow the same general characters. I have found that I now feel a lot more responsibility than I ever did before and with that I have to spend more time over decision which will not only impact me but also my family as I have to consider their best interests too. Bec runs her business pretty much single handedly and as such has had to make decision quicker and on the hoof.
I have up till recently lived my life without any real path or destination in mind. Having no idea what I wanted to do when I grew up. I took subjects which I just assumed would help me in life rather than anything I was particularly interested in. I learnt how to pass exams rather than how to learn, following the path of least resistance. I moved through school and college and into work taking opportunities which just kind of came up.
That being said I wouldn’t change the life I have now but I do question the idea that whatever may be will be. I have made decision some more difficult than others at various times in my life which have all led me to where I am now and I personally think it’s a perilous idea to think that it doesn’t matter what decision you make because everything is predetermined and down to date anyway.
When you have a decision in life to make there is a difference between thinking. I am an adult and this is the decision I have made, as an adult I will live with and get through the consequences of my decision even if I may later reflect that it was the wrong decision. Rather than just saying well I didn’t really make this decision as fate was always determining what I was going to do anyway.
I suppose the point of all this is do you believe your life is predetermined or mapped out from before you are born. Or do you believe that you have autonomy and power to impact the direction of your life?